Going to college and getting my degree in communications was something that I wanted to do for myself. So that’s why I worked as hard as I did to get it. It was important to me that I made that accomplishment for myself.
However, I don’t turn my nose up at people if they haven’t graduated from college. If anything, I would want people to be inspired by what I did and do some things for themselves. I understand that college is not for everyone and some may not be called to go that route. However, that doesn’t mean that you’re a loser and that you’re not capable of doing other things and being successful at those things. So if you learn anything from me, at least learn that much.
The thing that makes my flesh crawl is when people accomplish things in their lives and then they forget the smell of their own sh*t. If you’re accomplishing things in your life just so that you can have bragging rights and make other people feel small, that means that you are accomplishing things for the wrong reasons.
Oh yeah, you may think that the person who is as poor as a church mouse is a complete failure and that they will never amount to anything. Well, guess what? If you’re constantly coming around them and they have yet to learn anything significant from you, then it’s YOU that’s the failure because you have failed THEM.
Nobody likes to be around someone that makes them feel like they should kneel before them and kiss their feet. It’s known that many celebrities act in this very manner. They have a tendency to forget about the time when they too were broke as hell, living off of bologna sandwiches and ramen noodles, praying to God that they get their big break as they lived check to check or made money the illegal way in order to make ends meet.
Please be successful for the simple fact that you wanna influence someone in the right direction. Don’t just use your success just so that people can close down the damn mall for you or so that you can travel around with a big ass entourage that have more people in it than Jesus had disciples.
Am I saying that one shouldn’t enjoy the fruits of their labor? Absolutely NOT!!! If you got it like that, get it like that. You should definitely enjoy your wealth because you can best believe that when this sista gets wealthy, she’s definitely gonna make a pit stop into a Chevrolet dealership and buy her sweet self a black Camaro with black leather seats, all the trimmings, bells and whistles. (Of course, that’s after I pay off these god-awful student loans).
Anyway, my point is this: To those of you that have a college degree and all other kinds of accolades, use those things to improve the lives of others. That doesn’t mean give everyone a “hook-up” into the profession that you’re in or give them a free ride. What I mean is be the person that gives people inspiration to the point where they become focus and choose to do something with their lives.
Stop walking around acting like you are “the exalted one” because no matter how much you have achieved, there will always be something in your life that needs improvement. Not only that, but if you will take the focus off of yourself for just one second and take a look around, you may find that someone was sent your way to be an inspiration for YOU. Oh yeah, I know you’ll like to think that you have “arrived” but there’s always room for improvement for EVERYONE.
And furthermore, if you are the type of man or woman that speaks perfect English, that absolutely fantastic. But let me let you in on a little secret….most people don’t give a damn about that. There’s nothing wrong with speaking very eloquently but that doesn’t mean that a person who uses everyday slang in their speech has a mental illness. As I get older, I’m noticing that don’t use it as much as I used to but I don’t condemn people who still do. Slang is a common language that most people use when they’re in their comfort zone. Before you became Mr. or Ms. High-and-Mighty, you used to use it too.
If you don’t like to be around people who uses slang, get a grip on life and love them anyway. Besides, if they really care about changing their life, you’ll start to see a difference in their walk and talk mainly because they’ve been hanging around you. But don’t shun people that haven’t gotten to that level yet. In other words, learn to carry on a decent conversation that invites comfort to the other person. Nobody wants to feel as if they have to carry a dictionary around with them every time that you come around, simply because you wanna show off your vocabulary.
Yes, I know you’re probably saying, “But Sonica, it’s all about growth. In order for us to progress in life, we have to grow in certain areas of our lives and blah, blah, blah.” Honey, you are so right. But sometimes, in order for someone to learn from your own growth so that they can grow as well, you have to first be willing to put yourself in a position where the person feels comfortable around you.
For example, for all you Bible-thumpers, when Jesus wanted to invite sinners into a relationship with him, did he put them down and make them feel worthless? No, he did not. Did he meet them at their level? Yes, he did. So if the Lord has no problem doing that, why do you? And little do you know, the main person who you “think” is not as smart as you are, just might have a lot more wisdom than you do and could teach you some things that you have yet to learn.
Okay so now that I have told you about yourself with your too-smart-for-your-own-good ass, take everything I’m saying and go put a smile on someone’s face by being an inspiration for them. Good day.
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