Don’t Be Ashamed

It’s a damn shame that in this day and age, we still have people in this world that are about as fake as gold jewelry in a gumball machine. Anyway, my point is that people need to understand that the only one that they should fear is God because He’s the one that can take you from the cradle to the grave.

I’m sick and tired of people hiding what’s really going on because they want everyone to believe that the grass is greener on their side. Let’s be honest: We all have some issues in our lives that need the healing hands of Jesus. If you don’t have any issues, KEEP LIVING. You will have them someday. Whether it’s a horrible marriage, job loss, a dying parent, bad credit, etc., we all have something that we’re dealing with. That’s life.

I honestly believe that the reason why God allows us to have challenges in life is because he doesn’t want any of us to walk around thinking that we’re better than anyone else. If your own backyard is messy, you won’t have time to worry about the mess in someone else’s backyard. For example, one of my challenges is learning how to turn the other cheek. Sonica is quick to give someone a quick tongue-lashing if they hurt her in any way. But this is a flaw that I am working on because I’m a grown woman that desires to do better. That’s why I don’t turn my nose up at people who are having a hard time getting their stuff together. If they’re trying, that’s half the battle.

That leads me to say this: STOP allowing people to kill your dreams due to your dirty past. If you did it, you did it. But don’t let your past stop you from working towards a great future. If you want better for yourself and you want it bad enough, go get it and tell the naysayers to go to hell. Besides, if they’re not helping you achieve your dreams, treat their opinion like toilet paper: wipe your tail with it.

What you have to understand about the naysayers that want to remind you of your ugly past is that nine times outta ten, their past is worst than yours. And because they’re miserable as hell, they want you and everyone else to be miserable right along with them. The funny thing about naysayers is that most of them are the ones that have been doing the same crap for years, talking about the same crapfor years, and complaining about the same crap for years. So therefore, their opinion doesn’t need to be valued.

STOP explaining yourself to broke ass fools who haven’t even accomplished half of the things that you have accomplished. When you are free from what people think of your life, you are free indeed. They can’t live your life and you may be surprised to find out that they are not even strong enough to endure half of the things that you’ve gone thru. What should matter to you is YOU. No one can live your life but YOU and I don’t have to be a pastor or a therapist with a degree in psychology to tell you that.

Okay so maybe you was a drug dealer in the past. Maybe you committed armed robbery. Maybe you was laying butt naked on someone’s bear-skinned rug doing God-knows-what. Maybe you did sleep with your best friend’s man and got pregnant with his big-headed kid. But none of that means that your life is over and that you’re a permanent piece of crap. If you don’t believe me, take a good look at the majority of rap artists.

Just about every rap artist has either sold dope, gotten shot, and/or have a rap sheet longer than the grocery lines on the first of the month. They may have played their part in the most dirtiest scenario but then they decided to turn their life around and use that same hustler mentality to get record deals, Grammy awards, groupies in abundance, be the owner of companies, and buy property. And I’m not hardly mad at none of them. It’s called game. Get some.

So with that being said, don’t be ashamed of what you’ve gone thru or what it is that you have yet to overcome. Make it up in your mind that you’re gonna do something about your mess so that you can make your life better. In the Bible, it shows us that David was a hot mess but he was able to overcome all of his mess and God still made him a major playa in the game. The same thing can happen for you. It’s just gonna take a work of action on your part to get it done.

For example, a lot of people (especially my dear Black folks with kids) make it their business to make sure that they file their taxes during tax season so that they can get a big refund check. It doesn’t matter if it’s raining big balls of hot lava outside, they’re gonna make sure that they run to H&R Block to pick up their check. And why? Because they had their eye on that fifty-inch flat screen TV that they saw at Best Buy. They are determined to get it and will play sick and leave their job early just so that they can go pick it up. So why can’t you use that same determination to get off your tail and be awesome in this world? Still not convinced? Well, here’s another example:

Many people like to drag their feet in the morning when it’s time to go to their day jobs…especially if the sleep feels so damn good and it’s raining outside. We will hit that snooze button about fifteen times before we finally get up and go to work. But when Black Friday rolls around, the same people will get up at 1am and stand outside of Wal-Mart just to get that XBOX 360 for y’all crazy kids. When the door opens to Wal-Mart, y’all will knock down old ladies, curse out security guards, and pimp slap little kids to the floor just so that y’all can run and snatch up the latest gadget. No matter what y’all had to go thru and who’s ass y’all had to kick in order to get your desired item, you made sure that you got it. But anyway, my point is that you truly can do whatever you put your mind to.

And another thing: Just because you came from a messed up environment, doesn’t mean that you’re gonna be a messed up individual. You just might be the one to make it out of the ghetto and do extraordinary things. Yes, it’s true that your parents just might be a pair of goofballs. That doesn’t mean that you have to be a product of their foolishness. Learn from the mistakes of your parents and do things better in your own life. Don’t use that “product of my environment” excuse as a reason to not do anything with your life. Believe me, distractions are always gonna be around but it’s how you overcome that makes all the difference in the world.


Copyright © 2013 by Sonica Jackson

***The views and opinions expressed here on my website are solely those of myself and do not in any way represent the views and opinions of WordPress or anyone else.


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